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I have learn to be more accepting of people who change their surname when they marry. Personally, I see it as an archaic and unecessary practice. Why on earth would you want to change your name just because you've married someone? But I should remember that many people wouldn't have it any other way, perhaps seeing it as an honour to take the name of the person they love. It can even be a way to ditch an unwanted maiden name, or symbolise a fresh start in life.

[I mean no offence to those of you with married names. I really am chiding myself here, not questioning your choice.]

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If I marry Nick I'm taking his surname. But thats because he has a REALLY EFFING COOL surname, and mine just BLOWS. So its a practical thing =)

Taking Jason's name was an honour and really cemented the transition I had made from being a girlfriend to a lifelong partner. But really the practical reason is because of our children, I hate hyphenated names but feel that a child benefits from that link to both of it's parents that comes from having the same name as them. It also eases confusion in dealing with a beuracratic school system later :)

You make good points. Especially about confusion with schools, etc. Hyphenated names hadn't occured to me; our kids just got Holt as a surname, because neither of us had a strong preference for naming them Jones.

I recall seeing on the birth registration form that you can choose any surname for your kids and suggesting that we make names up for the fun of having five names in the one family... Of course, that would have been silly - giving them one of our names made sense and was more in line with the actual intention of the form. :-)

Anyway, I'm glad you saw it as an honour rather than an obligation. I guess many people these days do realise that they have a choice, but still choose to adopt their partner's name.

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I couldn't agree with you more, seriously I don't know what I was thinking when I changed mine (But that was 19 years ago and times have changed). It has nothing to do with the commitment at all, it's all about the individual.

Today, at lunch I asked a girl I work with if she would be changing her name when she marries in December. I suspect it was the first time someone had asked and it was interesting the response I got from all the girls there. The older ones wouldn't change their names, if they had their time over again and the younger unmarried ones stated that as a sign of their commitment, they would. So, what does that mean? I have no idea but it contains some food for thought on the subject.
cheers
Louise

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(Anonymous)
That is an interesting response. I was expecting you to say that the younger ones didn't see the point in changing names. The responses you cite show that the tradition of taking a husband's name is still very much alive, but doesn't work for everyone in hindsight.

Are you a Louise I know? The only Louise I can think of who might stumble upon this journal is one of my Flickr contacts...

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Yes, It's flickr Louise:)
I love both flickr and blogs.

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